To hold or not to hold
>> Sunday, March 4, 2007
Ok I need some opinion on this matter. Imagine you are out clubbing with friends, it's noisy, it's loud and the club is filled with people dancing, drinking, having fun, etc. You are with your friends having a great time too. You, a lady decided to go to the restroom, other girlfriends not going with you but one of yr male friends wanted to go so both of you maneuvered yr way thru the crowd. He grabbed yr hand and led the way. The question - to hold or not to hold??
The question is how should yr boyfriend, fiance, husband react to this situation? Can some other guy hold his "woman's hand? Can they take the fact that their "woman's" hand is held by another guy even though it is totally platonic? Ok let's ask the question in reverse. If my guy held another woman's hand in the same situation, am I ok with that??
Well here is my take - I think it is perfectly ok for a guy to hold my hand in this situation. Infact, I think the guy is really a gentleman who knows how to take care of his lady friends. Especially in a club situation, when people are often high, they are a little rowdy, and just the sheer large crowd, I feel it is really "man" when a guy takes the initiative to hold a girl's hand and lead the way. I feel protected and safe.
My fiance needs some convincing on this matter. Ha ha....he is just being the green eye monster sometimes...objecting to any man holding my hands!
1 comments:
I think there are a lot of way to move thru the heavy traffic in a party or club...you can go side by side and then put your hand on her back to tell her that you are behind or at her side. I think this way is better since it is not so obvious. Holding hand is such symbolic and I think it is reserve to special people. Well it also depends on how long. If he still hold your hands after getting thru the crowds??? How would you perceived that? What if that person wants to hold your hand to test if you are willing to be more intimate??? How would you answer that then? What if this person says...well you let me hold your hand, so you basically wants me to be more intimate with you...Yes I can misunderstand...but it is better to be safe than sorry. It is better not be misunderstand rather than give false impression. ...I think. Yes in some circumstances if she needs help to climb a ledge or she have difficulty going up a stairs, then it is ok. I am just old fashion I think. I think I am more of the old chivalry type......Anyway...I think we should up hold some moral and old culture. It is not going backward but preserving what is cultured and good moral standard.
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